So many things are on my heart right now. I've wanted to write them down for a few days now, but just didn't know where to start. If this ends up being a "popcorn post" (all over the place), that's why.
|Celebrating my 4th birthday|
My mom and I weren't as close as I think a mom and daughter should be. There are a lot of reasons for that, and the many miles that separated us is not the only one. We talked fairly often and always had a connection, but it just wasn't the mother-grown daughter relationship that I hope to have with my own daughters. Regardless, she's still my mom. I love her, and I miss her.
The last couple of weeks have been full of moments that remind me of the anniversary that approaches. Remembering Kristen's CT scan last July and believing that this test would prove to the surgeon that we wouldn't need him after all. The x-rays and ultrasounds done on Kristen after her birth didn't show the mass in her chest. We just "knew" that the CT scan would be evidence that God had healed our baby girl. But, it wasn't to be. The mass was still there and had to be removed. As straightforward as the surgery sounded (though certainly not a routine procedure by any means), it didn't turn out as any of us had imagined.
I'm still struggling so much with feeling out of place in situations and relationships where I once was so comfortable. Every part of my life has been affected by the death of my daughter. Nothing feels "normal" anymore. When we were on vacation in Colorado a couple of months ago, I remember actually feeling, for a couple of very brief moments, pretty much like I did before my life was suddenly turned upside down. Perhaps it was the change of scenery or the company we were with or just being able to step out, even for just a minute, from underneath the cloud of sorrow that follows me around.
My dear sister-in-law's due date approaches, and I find myself still so very torn between being happy for her and so very sad for me. Every week that goes by seems to get harder. I think what I worry about most is that Kristen will be forgotten by the rest of the family once my niece arrives. I've been told that's silly, but the thought is still there. I am praying for extra grace in that area.
As I continue to mull over these things (and several that I didn't include here), I know beyond all doubt that God will reveal something in each one that I need to learn. I'm doing my best to pay attention to Him, to glean the good from such difficult times.